In this section, you can share a secret anonymously. This woman thinks her new love might be a little too good with her daughter.
“ I am actually quite ashamed of this, because maybe there is something wrong with me. I finally found a nice new man — who doesnt immediately run away from being a single mother with children in adolescence — is the weather not good…
Felix (not his real name) had already indicated in his profile on the dating site that he loves children of any age. He works in a restaurant, where he guides and educates children “with a backpack”, so he has a lot of pedagogical experience.
“ Handling well with children and cooking well, you cant let them walk,” said my friend when she looked over my shoulder to the reactions I had received through a dating site. I thought it was two important pres, all the more so because I dont have such easy kids.
My three babies (a daughter of 16 and an ADHD twins of 13), are quite busy and present. And they dont always get along with each other (and then I put it mildly). In short, its actually a madhouse at my house regularly.
Not something you want to confront your new love right away. And I didnt. But the result was so far that I was left with a broken heart, because they liked me, but my family was a little less.
Stars of Heaven
“Im not doing this anymore,” I said to my best friend. “Ill wait to date until the kids leave the house.” My girlfriend didnt think that was a good idea and created a profile for me on a dating site for single parents.
With the result that every weekend a man in my kitchen is cooking the stars of the sky, along with my adolescent daughter, and two other hungry teenagers are asking if he cant come by a little more often. I dont know how he does it, but he turns those kids around his fingers. And me with that, too.
ends well, all right you might think, but theres something gnawing at me. When we do something together, we have a lot of fun, but when I come to his house, or he comes to me, I feel like I have to beg for attention.
Its like hes only got an eye for the kids. And not just for his own, I get that, because they are still young and he really misses them when theyre with their mother. But also mine. Especially for my adolescent daughter.
This is the first man to get her approval. She even likes him so much, that she suddenly became interested in cooking, while at first she did not even want to turn on the kettle. And she also suddenly dresses a lot nicer and more feminine when she knows hes coming. He has an eye for that and often gives her compliments.
Maybe more often than me. But yes, I am not such a fashion-conscious type and usually just wear jeans with blouse. So instead of enjoying this new domestic happiness, I just get a sting in my stomach of jealousy when I hear my daughter and Felix working together in the kitchen.
“ Ah, be glad shes being so nice to him,” throws my girlfriend against. “Better than this man, you dont find them. Count your blessings!” And thats what Im trying to do. But Im going to go shopping soon for a new wardrobe, because he gives my daughter more attention is not good for me.”